change forbidden_server_names and etc to allow regex patterns for wildcards

Signed-off-by: June Clementine Strawberry <june@3.dog>

src/api/client/message.rs

@@ -261,10 +261,9 @@ pub(crate) async fn is_ignored_pdu(
 	let ignored_type = IGNORED_MESSAGE_TYPES.binary_search(&pdu.kind).is_ok();
 
 	let ignored_server = services
-		.server
 		.config
 		.forbidden_remote_server_names
-		.contains(pdu.sender().server_name());
+		.is_match(pdu.sender().server_name().host());
 
 	if ignored_type
 		&& (ignored_server || services.users.user_is_ignored(&pdu.sender, user_id).await)